I don’t doubt that he understands what it’s like to feel as though he cannot say no, but for him to compare his situation with that of women feeling pressure to comply with the desires of a man in a position of power is absolute nonsense. To imply that the situation he repeatedly finds himself in is anyone’s fault but his own is just an example of his constant self-victimisation, and is a gross misrepresentation of what has actually occurred.
Yes, I am sure he sometimes feels as though he can’t say no. Unfortunately, that’s what happens when you shower your fans with gifts and money, when you beguile them and string them along with your lies and manipulation. When you invite them into your “safe space” and you use their trauma and vulnerabilities against them in order to get your rocks off. They will fall for the lies. They will think they are special. They will expect you to make good on your promises. They will hope you care about them as much as they care about you. What they won’t expect is for you to be doing the exact same thing to half your patrons and to their friends.
So, yes. I’m sure it keeps him up at night, worrying about what those women will do when he flips the script on them, how they will react when he gets bored of his “toy” or realizes they have become “too attached” and he needs to end the façade. I’m sure it’s incredibly anxiety inducing, but it’s a problem entirely of his own making.
“You build up a following. And then you you notice that you got people that are effectively time bombs. They’re time bombs. In your community.
And there’s no way to, there’s no way to safely remove them.
Because if you just ban them, then they go insane. They explode.
So you you try to appease them.
You try to do anything that you can to to prevent them from going off.
And a lot of times, if you’ve ever sort of like been, ‘whatever’ with with another person. And you’ve, you’ve given them a little bit more and more and more every time. But it’s clear that your heart’s not in it, right.
Like you’re not interested, but you, you give him a little.
Eventually they get mad because they, they know it’s it’s not real.
And eventually you do have to tell them no.
And you do have to tell them to stop or go away.
But because you made those concessions, you know, you were trying to keep the peace. You were trying to delay the fallout as much as possible, right?”
Here’s an idea: if you have people in your community who you believe are “time bombs”, maybe don’t slide into their DMs and “appease” them by sexting them and showering them with cash and gifts. I feel like this would probably send the wrong message and exacerbate things… just a smidge.
When your particular brand of appeasement involves sexual interactions and intimacy or fake friendship to string women along, it’s probably the worst thing you could do. Especially if you truly believed these women were ticking time bombs. But we all know that’s not the case.
You can’t string women along, essentially using them while it suits you, then turn around and claim they were “loose cannons” and you couldn’t say no. While they were useful to you, while they were serving a purpose, while they were paying your bills or getting your rocks off, you had no problem with them. You had no problem chatting with them, bitching about other members of your community, sharing dms, being intimate. Suddenly, now you’ve been called out, it’s an issue? Suddenly now that those cannons are aimed at you, it’s an issue? Suddenly they are the problem? Oh, but you knew all along, right?
Gotta love those “I always knew” confirmation bias ass loser weirdos. *eyeroll*
Personally, I think the “time bombs” in that community are the women who have the potential to see through his façade. Or, at least, the ones he knows he can’t control once they do. It’s not that they are “unhinged”, it’s that he’s been lying and if those women find out the truth he knows he won’t be able to control the fallout. So he creates this narrative where the women who speak out against him are crazy, rejected losers. He pushes this narrative for years. It’s embedded in his community so it’s easily believed whenever he makes a misstep, or someone speaks out.
Most of the women still supporting him through all this know exactly who he is and what he is doing, they just made the choice to go along with it. Some going so far as to enable it or , worse, cover it up.
There’s a reason he doesn’t like the Aussies and it has nothing at all to do with the lies he’s been telling about them. It’s interesting that he lumps all the Aussies into one group while denigrating us when, of all the Aussies that frequented the discord, only 3 have actually spoken out about him. Pickles and yours truly being the “main offenders”. He could, of course, just call the two of us out by name, but he doesn’t. Why is that? If we are the ones lying, why not call us out? He has no problem talking shit about us in DMs or handing out lists of names to his attack dogs. Sure, he will just say “I don’t want to give those maladjusted losers the attention they crave” but maybe, just maybe, there’s another reason for it. Go ask him. Ask him if what I’ve said on here is true, if anything I’ve written is a lie. Ask him why he hates the Aussies so much. Ask him if he thinks it’s okay for content creators to fuck around with their fanbase. Ask him why he made such a fuss about it when he was accusing other content creators of the same thing. Ask him why he lied about sexting when approached. Ask him why his mods lied about it. Put your big girl panties on and ask him. See what he says.
And, yeah, before you come at me, I know this bs he was spouting was a segue from a discussion on booktok, but it’s pretty damn clear to anyone with a modicum of intelligence that he’s using it as a way to address the “power imbalance” argument instead of properly acknowledging it. Once again twisting things to portray himself as a victim of women who “prey” upon him, instead of the other way around.
“You’re not interested, but you give him a little”
We aren’t talking about being nice here, we are talking about intimacy and, in my experience, women generally don’t interact intimately with men when their hearts are not in it or when they don’t feel anything. Usually the only time they might do that is when there is a power dynamic at play and they feel pressure to comply because of who the man is. The only other example I can think of would be when they don’t feel safe or are in a dangerous situation with a man, then they might capitulate.
Eventually they get mad because they know it’s not real.
Men do that. Think of all the times a guy has tried to pick you up or has sent you dms and has gone full incel simply because you turn them down.
The way he’s twisted things around here to be from a woman’s perspective in order to appeal to his fanbase is gross. He’s basically describing what he does to the women who follow him but he’s suggesting he’s the one being taken advantage of, that he’s the one being preyed upon by crazy women who were rejected. He’s describing incels. Women don’t usually behave this way. Sure there are exceptions to the rule, but the vast majority of women do not do the things he is describing.
If women are getting mad at him because “they find out it’s not real” – it’s because he’s given them the impression it was. He’s lied to them. He’s strung them along. Women don’t suddenly go crazy because “they feel entitled” to him and he “refuses them”. I didn’t feel entitled to him, nor did I get refused by him. The same can be said of all the women I consider my friends.
Why does he send his fans and the women he’s sexting gifts? Why does he send them exorbitant amounts of money? Is it an investment? Is it to make these women feel as though they owe him something? Is it to make them second guess speaking out about the fact they felt pressure to comply or had no idea he was doing the same thing with other women when the truth finally comes out?
I find it very strange that a man who constantly claimed he was off limits, that noone would get to know him, that noone should expect anything from him, that his fans are not entitled to anything from him apart from his audios, would be secretly sexting a large portion of his fanbase and sending them gifts and money. If it was all above board, why all the lies and secrecy? The man had a secret girlfriend the entire time he was sexting multiple fans and sending them thousands of dollars in gifts and money. I understand, to a degree, keeping a relationship under wraps, especially considering his girlfriend happens to be a member of his community. But why keep the sexting secret? Either it’s part of your sex work or it isn’t. If it is part of your sex work, why be so deceptive about it? Why not mention it on the patreon or in the discord?
Speaking of sex work, is it not odd for a SWer to be requesting/wanting numerous sexual images and videos from their clients? Don’t clients usually pay to see/hear the SWer, not the other way around? Unless, of course, it’s discussed beforehand. But none of this was in the patreon information or on the discord. Is it not also odd for a SWer to send their clients expensive gifts and money? Are these women even clients? If he considers them clients, are they aware of that?
But, then, we all know it’s not part of the sex work. It never was. That only became the narrative once he was called on his lies. He was offering women a safe space online away from men. To be secretly sexting those women, acquiring images and videos of them naked, seems to contradict that message. Has he deleted all the nudes and videos those women sent him or does he still possess them? Were any of those interactions used to create his content?
“These are the dumbest people on the fucken internet and genuinely noone likes them.”
“They are completely unlikeable. Noone liked them when they were in the community. I gave them the benefit of the doubt because I’m an idiot.”
So, if his detractors were always “completely unlikeable” and the “dumbest people on the internet” why was he sexting some of us? Was the sexting part of him “giving the benefit of the doubt” to women he thought were ticking time bombs, dumb and completely unlikeable? Was he “appeasing” women whenever he initiated it?
Who, exactly, is he speaking for here?
Anyone who was around when I was a member of his discord knows that’s a ridiculous fucking argument to make. His best friend liked me enough to speak with me every single day for the better part of a year. Some of those women enjoyed my company plenty when I would stream games late at night – especially when they were feeling lonely or being excluded by his gaming group. I could list all the people I got along with on that discord, but I won’t. My point being, either he’s a liar or he’s implying they were all lying to me. So, which is it? Are you all lying liars?
See, when he says things like this, that noone liked us when we were in the community, all I think about are those women I did like, and those I considered friends. I wonder what the Sarahs and Karens think when they hear him say things like this. Things that they know to be untrue. I wonder what the other Aussies think, knowing he’s saying these things about their friends, knowing that he’s lumping them in with us “detractors”.
I don’t think those women were liars, at least not when it came to liking any of us. I do, however, think he’s making liars of them to fit his narrative. I know there were those who didn’t like me. I know exactly who they were and why they didn’t like me and it had nothing to do with my personality. Let’s be real, though, this whole argument is for the newbies. Those who don’t know who he’s speaking about.
Those of you who do? Well, you should be questioning why he would be claiming noone liked any of us when you know it’s not true. Imagine hearing that as a new listener, or new member of the community. Imagine watching or hearing that as a woman who knows he’s lying because they’ve experienced what he does first-hand. Would you come forward knowing he will probably say similar things about you?
But then, if you all haven’t stopped to question the things that he’s said prior to this, I really doubt you give two shits about this particular lie.
Anyway, fancy complaining that we have been at this for four months. Of course we have. It’s not like he’s acknowledged anything, taken responsibility or apologised. We persevere because our outrage is not performative. We aren’t “obsessed”, we just know the truth and we don’t like it. We don’t like content creators who offer women a “safe space” only to take advantage of them in order to get their rocks off. We don’t like content creators who repeatedly lie to their fanbase in order to manipulate them. We don’t like content creators who refuse to acknowledge or take responsibility for any wrong-doing and, instead, use their platform to gaslight and lie about their detractors. We want women to know what he is really like.
Women I care about have left his community because of this blog, because of Pickles’ NGL page, because of those who were brave enough to speak out about him. This page isn’t going anywhere while it’s helping people, and anytime I hear about him making disparaging, hypocritical comments or lying about me and my friends, I will say something.
We’ve been at this for four months.
He’s been at it for three years.
“You do have to tell them to stop”
Stop what? Being strung along? Being lied to? Being misled? He’s literally just said that he strings women along instead of booting them like he claims to do when he’s got his big boy boots on. What do they have to stop doing, exactly?
I know there’s been a lot of talk in regards to this situation about how two consenting people can sext, there’s nothing wrong with it. Just ignore the fact his story has totally changed, ignore the power imbalance at play for a moment – should be easy for some of you. If a person is lying, is there really consent? It’s all well and good to say “they wanted it” but when you lied to get it, did they really want it and would they have had they known the truth?
So, yeah, I’m sure he knows what it’s like to feel as though he can’t say no.
I guess that’s what happens when almost every word out of your mouth is a lie. Eventually those lies will catch up to you.
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