Behind Closed Doors

When the Aftercare is Just Damage Control These thoughts are probably going to be somewhat disjointed but you will have to forgive me as I have been stricken with the Covids. I think it’s important to understand that pointing out a niche public figure’s inappropriate…

Ashley, could you please contact me? I had a couple of questions about the discord conversation we had before you disappeared from socials. (Ashley with the initials AES)

It’s difficult to speak out about a content creator you once held in high regard. It’s much easier to just step away quietly and avoid any potential fallout or abuse from their fanbase. With the Eros situation I’ve witnessed a community of women attacking those…

https://twitter.com/wtffolly_/status/1844517057762623932 I’m not a fan of most of these popular streamers, but I have some respect for those who make an effort to keep their fans in check. I think people underestimate the influence creators have over their audiences, and the responsibility that comes with…

This was supposed to be a 2023 wrap-up type thing but took me a while to write because I've been busy doing about a bajillion things that had to take priority. Yes, contrary to what some might believe, I do have a life lol. The…

This was originally split into two blog posts but, since both deal with the anon accounts, I figured I would just publish them as one. I wrote this a little while ago and then ummed and aahed about whether or not to post it because…

I love the idea that people who call out the problematic behaviour of content creators should “move on” after some arbitrary time-frame that’s decided by the content creator’s supporters. If you don’t “get over it” during this time-frame that some idiot pulled out of their…

Is Safe Truly Safe? It's come to my attention that some people are of the opinion that because E wants nothing to do with us, we should "leave him alone". That what we are doing amounts to harassment and stalking and that noone cares about…

I don’t doubt that he understands what it’s like to feel as though he cannot say no, but for him to compare his situation with that of women feeling pressure to comply with the desires of a man in a position of power is absolute…

It’s astonishing to me that so many women would unfollow their “friends” on social media because a male VA, who is clearly problematic, threatened to remove, block or ban anyone associating with his detractors. From his perspective I get it.From theirs, not so much. I…

When you tell women that you are off limits, that noone will ever get to know the real you, that they shouldn't be sliding into your dms at all and that becomes the message that you are constantly presenting to the public - they are…

I've had this poem pop into my head quite frequently over the past several months, so I thought I would share it with you. I spent many long hours on this, I even neglected my family and friends; because I have no life other than…

Oh gosh, i'm still here.I've had a few NGLs recently that I haven't published. I wasn't sure if you'd want them published or not so I decided against it. I just wanted to let you know that I received them and appreciate you. To those…

The point of this blog has always been to share my experiences while I was a member of the discord and to point out some of the hypocritical and harmful behaviour going on behind closed doors. My aim was to open some eyes and, potentially,…